Finish Him! Your Inner Nemesis That Is
If you’ve ever played Mortal Kombat then you know just how great these two words sound at the end of the game. You did it! Squashed your opponent like a bug! Unfortunately for many of us we can end up being our own scariest opponent. This opposition doesn’t come with blood or broken bones. Nope, this self-inflicted opponent comes in the form of self-doubt!
It happens to all of us at some point in our lives, even the most confident. Sometimes however, it can become too much of an unwanted presence and you’ll want to take it down! Here are four tips to conquer that inner nemesis.
1. Redirect your thoughts: When your brain is telling you “you’re not good enough for this” or “this is way too hard” do your best to stop the thoughts right in their tracks. Then purposefully say to yourself something better like “I’ve got this” or “I’m up for the challenge” or even “I’m good enough, smart enough and doggone it, people like me”!! Ok that last one is for the Saturday Night Live fans but you get what I’m trying to say. It may feel cheesy or awkward at first but before you know it the positive thoughts will take over and win the game!
2. Hone your skills: If you’re going in for an important job interview or you have to speak in front of a group, the best way to conquer that self-doubt is to really know your stuff. If it’s the job, then be sure you’re well trained in the position you’re going for. Take the time to highlight your skillsets both to yourself and within the interview. Let’s say you’ve got to present to a group and you’re really nervous. This one gets most of us at some point. Well, practice makes perfect they say. Practice your speech. Do it in front of a mirror. Watch a few Ted Talks. Study and mimic what other great speakers and presenters do. After your first presentation you’ll see that it didn’t kill you and it will only get easier from there! *I know this from personal experience!
3. Keep it realistic: We all have goals and we want to strive for bigger and better things. That’s great and we should all do this. But, don’t try to go from zero – 60 the first try. Trying too much too soon and failing can make us feel worse and further instill that dang self-doubt. Instead go for zero – 20. Succeed and then move on to 20 – 40, and so on and so on. Smaller accomplishments reign supreme and will get you where you want to go faster and stronger in the long run.
4. Cut yourself some slack: So you tried something and it didn’t work out. Yeah, maybe you said “um” too many times in your presentation. That’s okay. You did your best. Remember that we fail forward not backward. Many of the most successful people on our planet failed a whole bunch of times before they got it right. Pick yourself up, figure out what went awry then move forward with your strategy for next time. Do not, I repeat, do not beat yourself up. I promise nothing good will come from it. Remind yourself that you’re a strong, smart, capable warrior and keep on going!
Practice these easy tips and before you know it that inner nemesis will be so defeated you’ll hear those two epic words… Finish Him! (or her!)
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